3 Reasons that Drama is Not My Mama

“You have to want your dreams more than you want your drama.” – Jen Sincero

When you write and share your message with people, there are times when you have to write something and then leave it alone to fester. You need to let time do its work and see if when you revisit it, if it is valid and relevant or if you just wrote something that ultimately isn’t useful and should just be left alone. Sometimes it’s simply because you’re scared that what you wrote is not high quality or that it will get a negative reaction. THIS is one of those posts. I actually wrote this on May 2, 2017 and its been sitting there ever since.

After reading it again, I realized that I left it because I didn’t want to offend anyone. But, ultimately, if you are going to help people, then you are going to have make yourself, and those people uncomfortable from time to time. Well, this is one of those times.

So, before you read this, I want to say in advance, this is my opinion and I do not mean to offend anyone, but I do feel strongly that this can help some people. If you read it and your good, awesome! If you read this and you get to thinking, even better.

I was reading a book by Jen Sincero, You are a Badass at Making Money, and I came across this quote of hers: “You have to want your dreams more than your drama.” I instantly thought of this post that I had just been letting sit. You can apply this to your running goals AND your life goals. So, I am going to roll the dice and publish my thoughts around one of the biggest hurdles to success for anyone, including myself. Drama…

Time

Time is the only true commodity that you cannot buy more of. When you leave this earth, it’s over, and no one can be sure when that time will come. Knowing that I only have a limited amount of it, I work very hard to keep the drama in my life to a minimum. It reasons that if I only have a limited amount of time, and I want to spend it doing awesome stuff that is productive, rewarding, and fulfilling, I can’t fill it with petty arguments and dealing with situations that are usually completely avoidable. I’m too busy trying to kick ass to worry about petty bullshit. This means that I minimize my exposure to people who create or participate in any drama as well, because if you get sucked in, the outcome is the same… NEGATIVE.

Stress

Have you ever been around someone who always seems to have bad stuff going on, or is always talking bad about other people? It’s a bummer, and it is downright stressful. Everything that I have read about stress, is that it is possible that it’s worse than smoking or being obese! Think about that for a minute. Being stressed can do more damage to your body physically then something that causes cancer or diabetes! Think about that the next time you are going to overreact to a comment someone made, or you are getting ready to hang out with that friend who always seems to have crazy things going on in their life!

Predetermines Failure

This is a hard one to swallow. Other than the Kardashian’s, I have not met anyone who has a ton of drama going on in their life that becomes successful. In my job as a leader, I have terminated numerous people for being chronically late to work, and they all say the same thing the day they are terminated. It usually goes something like this: Me “Employee A, we are terminating your employment today because you were late to work for the 7th time in the last 12 months.” Employee A “You’re firing me because I had a flat tire, that’s not fair!” At this point, I try and explain to the person that we are not firing them for the flat tire they had today, it’s because of the other six incidents AND the flat tire today. How does someone show up to work late so frequently? Drama. They are not taking care of their crap and it ends up biting them in the rear.

It’s really that simple, drama is a drain on your time, money, energy, and well-being. If you don’t believe me, think about the drama that you are creating in your own life and take control of it for a few days. Make sure that you get to bed early, that you pay your bills, try not to overreact to other people that upset you, etc. Next, think really hard about the people you are spending time with that love to drum up drama and always seem to have a problem, and then cut them out of your schedule for a few days. Don’t talk with them, visit with them, or look at text messages and social media. Simply collect yourself for a few days. If you really do this, tell me that you don’t suddenly have more time, more energy, and less stress in your life!

Trust me, if you stop letting drama run your day, you’ll be a lot more productive and that is always a good thing.

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9 Replies to “3 Reasons that Drama is Not My Mama”

  1. Good advice. Drama is a malevolent thief. Don’t let it steal your precious time, your goodness,…your life. Thanks Joe! ?✌?

    1. As always, you are welcome Rose! This is something I work on continuously as there always seems to be “new drama” trying to creep in to my life. I simply do not have time for it…

  2. I agree Joe, no drama! Do the right thing, & be the best you can be. Be accountable for yourself and make no excuses. (You’re only fooling yourself if you do) You have one life- make it count- be honest in all things, especially to yourself, and don’t forget to pray and thank God….

    1. Well said! I wonder why I sound so much like you? This is my Aunt, but really my Mom. She’s the best kind of mom there is, the one who just decided to love me even though she didn’t have to! I will be forever grateful! Love you Mom!

  3. Man this is one of my favorite post. I refuse to let other people bring me down. I got a mission I don’t have time for all that. ? for real though.

    1. Chris, you and I talk about this ALL the time. Anyone trying to accomplish anything, has to steer clear of the BS, or it will consume you.

  4. Thanks JR for this post! I love it! Just a great refresher for myself and others! Life is too short to focus on the petty things in life. Enjoy life and every minute of it. I run to relieve stress and this sport has helped guide me in the right direction. There are times when I am in stressful situations, dealing with negativity, or just in a bad mood for whatever the reason it may be. But looking at the bigger picture in life… I remind myself that I should be thankful for everything that I have and to be blessed to have so many nice people in my life to help support me in every way possible. This is what I thrive for. Peace. Love. Happiness. Thanks again JR for sharing your thoughts!

    1. Nicole, you know how I feel about this stuff from our personal exchanges. I try and stay focused and positive. Ain’t nobody got time for that!!! Peace Joe the Runner

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